The Drama Triangle

The drama triangle is one of my favourite concepts. It certainly helped me understand some of my own unhealthy behaviours and lead me to be able to employ much more solid boundaries as a result. So what is it? Created by Stephen Karpman, it looks at how personal responsibility and power in conflicts are connected [...]

Gaslighting

Gaslighting Gaslighting is a term taken from the 1940’s stage play and later film, Gas Light. In the story, the husband convinces his wife, and those around them, that she is insane by changing things in their environment and convincing her that she is mistaken or has misremembered things. One of the things is convincing [...]

Trauma Bonding

Have you ever wondered why you, or your loved one can’t leave the person who hurts them? Whether physical or emotional, it can be impossible to understand why someone won’t leave, and sometimes we can feel judgemental of that, which is understandable, even if it makes us feel bad for feeling that way. We’ve all [...]

Owning emotion.

There are times when we will tell someone ‘you make me feel...’. Unwittingly, we have given them power and relinquished responsibility of our feelings. There are certainly situations that provoke emotions, there’s no denying that, but even in those situations the emotion is ours and ours alone. The secret is understanding that certain situations trigger [...]